Things you'll definitely know if you are married to an IT guy....

After seeing this crazy list-o-mania trending on social media nowadays, I too thought of coming up with my own. But creating a list was not an easy job and the realisation came to me after four days of personalised research on it.

Well, it was not if I had a mental or writing block...rather the topics appeared to be too controversial or sensitive for me...for e.g. "Things you'll definitely know if you have a snobby boss" (I know people... everyone wants to write about this one topic...but I have an appraisal cycle next month..so can't)..or "Things you'll definitely know if you have a nagging wife"....Noo!!..I can't write excerpts of my own biography...leave it...

Thus after thinking and rejecting almost ten themes, I zeroed upon the one which had the least risk and controversy creating capabilities...Because I knew I will be able to settle down the consequential domestic hullabaloo (really like this word) with a plate of pakoras or a bowl of kheer...if he reads it....   

So coming down to my list...I have kept it really sweet and simple...But before that let me write a very clear disclaimer for it - " This is not a work of fiction. It may be or would be resembling to lives of almost 99% of professionals working in Bangalore, Mumbai, Pune, Gurgaon and all metro cities..:-)"

• Code, Client, Bug, By Default are general terminologies of your daily conversations..:-) 
• Your every bill, insurance renewals, policy purchase, ITR filing etc. etc. are done on the last date or deadline...even being on PCs 24*7...but so what at least we did it...and avoided the late payment fee like the last three months...oh yeah we are improvising..:-)
• You have to have almost all important conversations twice because he's always busy on his Blackberry or Laptop..
• You are always late for your relative's, friend's or colleague's party because he memorised it after the major software release..which got postponed ....and the party was too (in his oopar ka mala)...Now I know this Ghajini's STML was not a fake funda...I can bet on it...:-)
• Friday night is the best time to strike a sensitive conversation because he's in best of his moods and spirits...and honestly you can ask for anything at that time...shhhhh :-)
• You both are sitting in your favourite restaurant indulging in one of the best conversation of your life (atleast...you thought so)..and suddenly some client issue or bug arrives as the wo in your much awaited date night... Gone within 60 seconds..:-)
• Your vacation plans take two-three attempts to materialise..thanks to some unexpected weekend change, issue or call :-)
• You only have one day i.e. Saturday to finish each and every work, task, chore associated with  home, finances, relatives, friends etc.etc..:-)
• Cost Benefit Analysis and Risk Management plays a pivotal role...even when you are buying kanda and aloo...Why??? ..because Rita Mulcahy said so...:-)
• And last but not the least..Sunday is the gloomiest day in your home.

These are some of the day to day experiences, I am having as his companion. I am sure if asked he'll have a longer list than mine...because I am into IT and nagging too..:-)

But I believe...that is what marriage is all about...finding happiness and joy in each others imperfections and blunders..again and again...isn't it??? :-)

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I am a feminist...am I??

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With Ganeshotsav around the corner, practice sessions of traditional art form of "Dol Tasha" are on full swing in each and every mohalla of Pune nowadays. One such group practices very near to my house too. I really like watching and hearing them every day. But the aspect which amuses and fascinates me more this year is the number of girls practicing and performing in the group.

Daily I watch them in their salwar suits with a Dhol tightly hanging from their shoulder to waist, trying to perform in sync with male members of the group. I feel really proud of them as they are trying to make a mark in an art form which traditionally has more male performers. 

Generally, I didn't get much time to watch their whole practice session which usually continues till seven or eight in the evening. But yesterday being a holiday I saw them wind up their session. Afterwards, male members of the group carried the Dhols with them while the girls were sitting aside and chatting.

Surprisingly it appears that these girls want to learn a predominated male art form and perform like their male counterparts but when it comes to carrying the instrument they needed help. So wasn't it a selfish and unfair move? Were they really tired or were just taking an advantage of being a girl? Well, I cannot judge the level of exhaustion of girls or the volunteering gestures of boys just by observing and watching them.

But didn't we all do the same in our lives, time to time? Didn't we all curse each and every men walking past by and not helping us to start our scooty in rains? Whether its carrying the heaviest shopping bag or giving a place to sit in a local; helping and protecting are the basic fundamental duties of every male in our minds and our female world. From father, brother, boyfriend to husband all the male figures in our life are entitled for a set of obligations associated with us. Didn't we all try to exploit the masculinity of other sex as per our needs, situations or emotions?

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We cannot become feminist as per our choice, needs, and situation. So is this pseudo-feminism? Well, that is a long debate with an unclear answer. But for now, we can give some credit and recognition to all the male figures in our lives, who silently cover up for us in our thick and thins.

Hats off to you guys!!    

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Trapped - I

“Bleeding ulcers run in my family, we give them to each other.” 

             Lois McMaster Bujold, Borders of Infinity

We are all born with a set of relationships i.e. grandparents, parents, siblings, cousins, aunts, uncles etc. etc..We don't have any say in choosing them or in IT terminology I can say they come "by default" to us..

These are the relationships or people who decide who or what you would be in life. I really believe that a person is very lucky if he or she has the best loving, supporting and caring relatives around him or her. Because they are the ones who play a major role in uplifting and motivating you. They are with you in all your ups and downs. They become your anchor when you are going through the most turbulent times of your life.. They are on your side irrespective of situations, emotions, feelings, egos etc etc...(an excerpt straight from Hum Sath Sath Hain saga)..  

    

But what if life chooses to screw you ...and you end up in a dysfunctional equation with any of them,

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some of them, or every one of them in the family.

Well, welcome to the most painful, frustrating and never ending ordeal of your life and your existence. 

Why?.. because they know how to hurt you, where to hurt you, and when to hurt you. You are vulnerable and defenceless and they know it...to use it...

No matter how much you strategise, plan or prepare..the damage is always more fatal than the last one. You feel trapped and suffocated in an emotionless vacuum with no breakthrough..

A strenuous relationship with your father, mother or sibling leaves you emotionally impaired for life. And nothing in this world can heal or help the consequences and after effects of it.

You only learn to adjust, hide and escape from it!!

(To be continued in the next part)

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A Vampire's Black Diary

Black is me! As an immortal, it's the best how I can describe the

magnitude of this colour in my existence. It's peaceful, serene and

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pure...

Couple of nights back, I stumbled upon #whattheblack activity flashing on Blogadda. Yes, I visit Blogadda often too. It's the best way to assess and inspect the intellectual and logical mortal world. After all, we also need some creative juices flowing in our veins. 

Rumoured to be yet another conspiracy of lycans, I decided to investigate what actually #whattheblack was. Not having much to do in daytime, I wrote and submitted my first entry. And thanks to all the artistry running in my blood, I got shortlisted too.:-)

The next phase of #whattheblack activity was analysing the three clues and guessing the fourth and final one. All four of them were to be delivered at my home. I was so excited and desperate. Can you imagine getting black goodies from mortals that too at my door step...evil me.

Let me walk you through my four night #whattheblack experience. Come on..don't be scared..

Clue i 

I was really anxious on the first day and there it came my first clue. The package was all black and very interestingly done. I opened it cautiously and it was a Black Egg."No lycans can't think that innovatively", I told and smiled at myself. This can only be humans or mortals. And to my astonishment, it was filled with delicious looking and tasting chocolate too. Well that can be an amazing gift for Sheila (my new next door neighbour) and so I kept it safely in my cupboard. I diligently tried to guess the next clue and waited for it to come.

Clue ii 

The next clue was more bewildering than the first one. This time the daily newspaper turned black. As it normally comes in daylight and is white, I am not an avid reader of it. But a black one surely coaxed me to read some of the headlines in it. As expected, Black Egg was the front page news. But a black star, black cricket uniforms and then a black ball....It was all startling for me too (And trust me, there are not many things on this earth which can amaze me)..

So much of reading but still no inkling of #whattheblack was going on..

Clue iii 

And then arrived the curious case of  black coffee cup and tissue paper. Wait the black tissue paper was there on the newspaper..Oh No!!..missed it yesterday. But knowing my food habits, I must say these two products now being black would really help me in future.:-)

I must say this mystery took over my mind and thoughts. I didn't even go for my routine night out...What would it be? I was anxious and curious..

The Final Revelation

And finally the fourth and final product was here. Interestingly, the package had a similar shape to one of my favourite napping places. I opened it and there it was a black bristle toothbrush. 

It's a new invention of Colgate and is termed as Slim Soft Charcoal. It's bristles are charcoal infused and 17X slimmer...Wow!! I never saw it coming.

I used it straightaway..And let me tell you, it didn't let me down. Due to my eating habits, I have to retire my white toothbrush in two - three days and brushing for me is painful too...ouch (ya we do it too..afterall we live in a civilised world). But this time, I am really lucky to get this ground breaking piece of technique. It's very soft and black in color.. perfect for me and my coven..I guess mortals got really lucky this time and invented this amazing must have item..      

It's so useful and accurate. Give it a try. I am sure it will not disappoint you..   

Colgate Slim Soft Charcoal & Blogadda - You rock both mortal & immortal worlds!!!!             

This whole activity was really exciting and I had loads of fun too...oh no...I started sounding like mortals...

Time to sign off!!

This post is a part of #WhatTheBlack activity at BlogAdda.com